interdependence...

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22 Nov 04

Interdependence

An irrefutable reality is
that most of us depend in many ways
upon other people one time or another.

Yet,
within a greater reality that encompasses this appearance
no person ever, really depends upon another.



The essence of Life divides itself
into myriads of interchanging interdependent expressions...

Orion

gender...

Nov 07

Gender Liberation


What defines also restricts



Ask any Man and any Woman


Orion

confining...

Nov 07

Confining Perimeters



Men and women right from the time of birth
are subjected to stereotypical conditioning
reinforced throughout life by family and society.

Gender conditioning is both direct and intentional
as well as indirect by observation and repetition.

If men and women
learn to consider and conduct themselves
primarily as human beings rather than identifying
with their expected stereotypes of gender or role
they will be able to

* Liberate themselves
from the confining perimeters of gender

* Express themselves
more freely and in more rich and diverse ways
outside the predetermined and defining
modes of behaviour.

* Connect better on a common level with the opposite sex
and generally with other people

* Develop respect and understanding for one another

* Build more deep and straightforward relationships

There is a lot to be worked out in between
but the foundation, connecting link and liberating factor
is the key recognition and expression from the level of:

" I am a human being - You are a human being"

Orion

switching...

Nov 07

Switching Modes



The roles we play in our relationships, such as
son or daughter of our parents
mother/father of our children
husband/wife or lover to our partner
and a number of other outer variations
help us develop, deepen and define
the many aspects of our personalities.

We possess the unique ability
despite any conscious or unconscious effort
to bring forth and isolate these aspects and functions
and respond through them as needed
in different alternating occasions.

Frequently there are accidental conflicts or misunderstandings
that arise when switching from one mode to another
especially when not aware of the switch taking place.

The conflicts and misunderstandings often arise
either inside one's own self or within one's relationships
from the mistaken premise of identification with these roles
either by the individual or by others
as being the totality of one's Self and expression.

One must never forget that each human being
has a multi faceted personality.


Orion

multitude...

Nov 07

Multitude of Selves



Whenever speaking to someone, one must always beware
of a 'multitude of selves'
that often lurk quietly in the dark behind that familiar face.

One can never know which one will respond and how.

One must also be aware with which one within oneself
they are speaking or listening from, receiving and responding.

Orion

choice...

Sep 07

Matter of Choice



There is a difference between being subservient
to other people's wishes, demands or expectations,
due to fear, low self esteem or personal gains of sorts
than ''choosing'' to do so ''willingly and with understanding''
and with a charitable purpose in mind
such as display of affection, helping someone in need
or just to fulfill a wish of theirs.

In the first instance one searches for reasons or excuses
to justify and substantiate their actions to themselves
in order to feel good about them
often interpreting them as "necessary sacrifices"
while in the second instance one feels contented
and thoroughly satisfied, much the way we feel
when we put aside willingly our needs or priorities
for the benefit of a loved one, whether a child, a partner,
a parent or a best friend.

Orion

communication...

Dec 07

Communication



I used to believe that the best way of communication
was the written one.

One has the chance to read carefully
and read again if it need be
and take the time to think, reflect, understand, and evaluate
free from the pressures of the immediacy of the contact
or the need for a quick response
which may cause artificiality in the exchange
or distortion by the state of the listener/contributor 's mind.

Now I know
that the recipient's mind is always a stumbling block
combined by an almost permanently erect
defensive protective barrier
together making an almost impenetrable wall
with only a tiny window with its own tinted glass
allowing any interpretation and processing to go through
often mirroring its own reflection
rather than its own understanding
no matter what medium of communication is chosen.

Alter Ego

disregard...

Feb 05

Common Disregard



Often amazing how people manage to totally disregard or ignore
other people's feelings, their needs, their circumstances
while appearing to acknowledge them with empty empathic words.

Alter Ego


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People are so driven by their own needs
desires and unconscious drives and urges
that they are rarely aware how often they trample
upon others in order to achieve them.

Mentor

for you?...

Oct 07

For You or Me?



Looking deep inside...

How much truth does "I Do it for You" really hold
especially when the recipient
is neither interested nor happy?

Orion

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"What terrible things we do to those we love"

Frank Herbert
Dune

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( A very discomforting revelation is discovering oneself guilty
of committing similar offences often quite oblivious of them )